What if the problem isn’t that you’re scattered—but that you’ve been asked to stay small?
If you’ve ever felt pressured to “just pick one thing,” you know how frustrating it can be. The world often rewards people who focus on one clear direction. But if you’re someone who’s curious, creative, and full of ideas, that kind of focus can feel more like a cage than a gift.
You’re not confused. You’re multi-passionate. And your path doesn’t have to be a straight line to be meaningful.
Most of us weren’t shown how to build a path that moves with us—one that leaves space for growth and change. We were taught to choose. To narrow things down. To stick to one thing forever. But for someone who’s always learning and exploring, that can feel like being asked to stop growing.
What if the goal isn’t to choose once and for all—but to keep choosing in a way that fits who you are becoming?
Your path should fit you, not the other way around.
Your path isn’t a prison. It’s a tool. It should support your growth, not hold you back.
Instead of forcing yourself to choose just one thing forever, try creating a structure that gives you space to explore and evolve. Something that keeps you grounded but doesn’t limit you.
That might look like:
Creating a project or business that shifts as you grow
Choosing a theme or mission that stays steady even if the details change
Focusing on your values and core message, not just your current interests
It’s not about avoiding commitment—it’s about making space for growth inside your commitment.
Changing doesn’t mean starting over.
You’re allowed to change. You’re allowed to shift direction. That doesn’t mean you’ve failed—it means you’re growing.
Think of your path like a tree. The trunk is your foundation—your values, your curiosity, your way of thinking. The branches are the different directions you explore. You don’t have to stay on one branch forever. You can grow and stretch in new directions over time.
This isn’t scattered. It’s alive.
You don’t need to pick just one thing.
What you really need is a path that grows with you. A way of working and creating that gives you freedom, not pressure. That’s not giving up. That’s being wise.
So if you’ve been feeling stuck—like you’re too much, or not focused enough—maybe the problem isn’t you. Maybe the real issue is the question itself. Instead of asking, “What’s my one thing?”, try asking, “What kind of path can grow with me?”
Because that’s what matters most: finding a shape, a rhythm, a structure that’s strong enough to hold all of you—not just one version.
Reflect:
Where are you trying to squeeze into something too small?
What would it look like to build a path that fits the way you grow?
Great post! I'm with this! ✨
It also reminds me of a silly interaction I have with my cousin. (I'll share it in a restack note. ^^)